There is the old saying ‘you have to love yourself first before anyone else can love you’. Now I don’t necessarily think this is 100% true but it is very important for successful relationships. If you don’t know how to love yourself, then issues can arise in relationships, usually involving paranoia and jealousy. For example, if you don’t love yourself, then you may question why someone else might, which then in turn makes you wonder if they are looking elsewhere!
This is why it is important to be comfortable in your own skin and appreciate yourself. Take a look at this article on why you should love yourself for more detailed steps to achieve this and the reasons behind it.
The main point in that article I’d suggest to focus on is thinking we are not good enough. This will make us think we are not good enough as a partner as well as other things which of course will always cause underlying issues in a relationship no matter how hard you try not to show it.
Being in a relationship shouldn’t be looked at as the remedy to any issues you have with self-love. You should always, in or out of a relationship, be looking to improve your ability to self-love for the benefit of yourself and others. One thing I really recommend to friends is to invest in yourself financially if you have issues with self-love. Get yourself a life coach, it is one of the best things I’ve done to help myself. If you are based here, here is an amazing life coach in the UK that I used myself that I highly recommend.
Once you start to love yourself, you will benefit from greater success in relationships, not just romantic ones, but any relationship and you will start to have more scope to love others too. Self-love is as important as loving each other.