I thought I’d talk a little today about what I like to do during the pandemic.
I think it is a good idea to share what we are all up to in order to give people ideas. I know a lot of friends and family who say they are very bored at the moment with so little available to do due to the pandemic.
Well, I say there are lots. Go back to basics, here is a list of ideas:
Writing (did you know I like to write??? ha!)
Gardening outdoors/indoors (house plants)
Zoom quiz with friends or family
Watching the stars
There is a lot you can be doing and this list is just some ideas for you taken from my own life.
I wanted to write about how achieving inner peace is not something to be forced, but something to be gently obtained. You will know what I mean when you achieve it.
Instead of searching for inner peace, you can do things that in the meantime will attract inner peace to you. It will come to you if you are patient. Try meditation, yoga, exercise, reading, and avoiding electronic devices and you will soon be on your way.
There is the old saying ‘you have to love yourself first before anyone else can love you’. Now I don’t necessarily think this is 100% true but it is very important for successful relationships. If you don’t know how to love yourself, then issues can arise in relationships, usually involving paranoia and jealousy. For example, if you don’t love yourself, then you may question why someone else might, which then in turn makes you wonder if they are looking elsewhere!
This is why it is important to be comfortable in your own skin and appreciate yourself. Take a look at this article on why you should love yourself for more detailed steps to achieve this and the reasons behind it.
The main point in that article I’d suggest to focus on is thinking we are not good enough. This will make us think we are not good enough as a partner as well as other things which of course will always cause underlying issues in a relationship no matter how hard you try not to show it.
Being in a relationship shouldn’t be looked at as the remedy to any issues you have with self-love. You should always, in or out of a relationship, be looking to improve your ability to self-love for the benefit of yourself and others. One thing I really recommend to friends is to invest in yourself financially if you have issues with self-love. Get yourself a life coach, it is one of the best things I’ve done to help myself. If you are based here, here is an amazing life coach in the UK that I used myself that I highly recommend.
Once you start to love yourself, you will benefit from greater success in relationships, not just romantic ones, but any relationship and you will start to have more scope to love others too. Self-love is as important as loving each other.
I thought I’d start with my top 3 tips on relationships for 2020. Obviously we have been going through a pandemic which has been tough for relationships. Since lockdown was eased in my city, people have once again been able to go on dates and meet potential partners.
Here are my top 3 tips for dating in 2020:
Be open to new date ideas. We can’t exactly be doing the same type of dates as we could do before lockdown, so if he or she suggests something you have not done before, then take the leap!
Be prepared to use online dating. There are plenty of good dating apps and websites out there beyond tinder that you can use to meet new people, I suggest you find one that you like using and give online dating a chance in 2020.
Have fun! This one is key. We may go into a lockdown again in the near future, so have as much fun as you can while it lasts and go into dates with an open mind, you may only have so many dates before it is a no go again.